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"Etiquette books were all the rage at the time, advising men and women on Victorian courtship rituals and what it means to be a proper lady or manly gentleman.
Maintaining relationships in the Victorian era meant deciphering the often bewildering code: How does a gentleman walk with a lady? “Make love” to Victorians meant instead chaste courtship or wooing. “You will avoid hurting anyone’s feelings, and save yourself from all further perplexity.”What about anonymous gifts from dudes? Nope: “When this is the case, it is a good way to put them by, out of sight, and never to mention them.”) Women, it is argued, prefer a “backward, awkward, and even a little uncouth” manly man over a “polite, agreeable dandy.” Men of the time were told to not frequent “the haunts of disreputable women” or spend time “ruining weak-minded girls,” but instead “harden your hands and smut your face at honest work.” In case the message wasn’t clear, the book also advises men to “engage in every manly exercise, so that all who look upon you will be compelled to say, ‘There is a man.’” (1860) says engaged men should not only “show constant attention” to their “bride-elect,” they should also “neither in company nor elsewhere... But there’s a Victorian twist: “On the other hand, he should avoid, even to his bride-elect, those marked attentions and endearments that would excite in strangers a smile of ridicule.”So no public displays of affection?
A gentleman could only call on a lady with her permission.
In Victorian times, much more etiquette was called for.
During the Victorian era, unmarried women complained of all the good men being "taken", and they wondered if "Mr. Advice manuals were prevalent during the Victorian years, and women turned to these books for the advice that they provided, whether good or bad.
One of the most romantic aspects of a Victorian courtship was the written word.
Not only did women keep a diary of the courtship, but both partners exchanged romantic letters.
'The delight of the average hostess's heart is the well-bred man, unspoiled by conceit, who can always be depended upon to do his duty.